Love is a natural phenomenon being defined differently over the course of world evolution; however, all have agreed at one point that, “Love is all about giving away”. The Lord gives away His blessings to the living beings which we exploit for good or the otherwise; mother gives away her five years of life at birth of every child and her life looking after her children at all times; father finds his luxuries and comforts in his child (ren) giving away short-lived worldly content; children feel honored to serve their parents; spouses give their pride, honor and happiness to their soul-mates; similarly, it is love to give away one’s anger to others and then one’s pride to go and say, “I am sorry!”. It is all about love to want, look up to or need someone in all situations for a healthy and happy relationship and life.

From very childhood, a child is asked to apologize to others for whatsoever bad reasons. At school he is taught to admit his faults for his sake. For healthy relationship, expressing love is only half part but it all depends on how he/she takes the negligence, offence and pain given to others. To particular note, relationship between a guy and girl is as sensitive and delicate as any other relation which either opens doors for happiness, success and solace or drags to misery and adversity. Therefore, it is never late to learn cultivating unconditional love for our mates at all stages of life. 

In this type of relationship, there are four (4) stages:

1. Initiating: When either side starts feeling their presence, making difference to mood, gesture and expressions. In simple words, there is fire in one-self and uncertain reluctance to move ahead.

2. Status: It is when one feels void in oneself and is tempted to the other one. Friends are usually means of communication to break that silence and help bring them to a point meeting and sharing their joys. 

3. Affection: Life is all about affection for whatsoever one has ambition; either it is material, something virtual, status or someone. It is that affection which makes us sleep late and wake up early to pursue it by all means. For serious relationship, affection is the key to sustainability as the quicker affection fades, the sooner relationship weakens and breaks – most probably. The most successful couples always think affection has kept them tied together for healthy and longer relationship. 

4. Bonding: No matter where one is, he/she ends us finding his/her soul-mate as it is said, soul mates are made in heaven and found on earth. Once the intimacy or affection grows stronger, the guy and girl intend to go for the bond vowing to remain by each other for long and long. 

However, not all relations have happy ending and there are breakups too which in most cases hurt both sides. Thus, they either end up with stress, frustration, loneliness and worst of which suicide or drugs addiction or else they mature enough to reflect what went wrong which help them avoid in future relationship. But there is one common and simple thing to learn is to figure out one’s contribution in ruining the relation and admitting one’s failure and choosing to apologize to oneself and the other person for the sake of health relationship and life. Because it is never too late and that everyone deserves a second chance. 

Jawad